I know the bride usually plans the wedding because she’s dreamed of her wedding a certain way since she was 12… but I honestly have never dreamed of any specific kind of wedding. Trying to plan a wedding is giving me a headache. How much is it fair to expect my fiance to plan? Can I give the planning to him and just show up? (He doesn’t seem to want to do the planning either.)
Men will tend to plan the things that are most important to them, but only if you discuss this with them. Maybe ask him to handle the DJ and see how that goes.
If you don’t want a big wedding you don’t have to have one. If neither of you are interested in the planning & you can afford it, hire a wedding coordinator to take on the task.
November 29th, 2009 at 2:20 am
none of it, they just want to hear about it not do anything with it. good luck
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November 29th, 2009 at 3:00 am
Men will tend to plan the things that are most important to them, but only if you discuss this with them. Maybe ask him to handle the DJ and see how that goes.
If you don’t want a big wedding you don’t have to have one. If neither of you are interested in the planning & you can afford it, hire a wedding coordinator to take on the task.
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http://www.brides2wives.com
November 29th, 2009 at 3:27 am
Traditionally, the groom is in charge of planning the honeymoon. I would ask him what he would like to take care of, like the DJ or band to play at your reception. Ask your mom to help plan your wedding, she will be in 7th Heaven!
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November 29th, 2009 at 3:49 am
When I was planning my wedding, I went out and bought a book – essentially a couple’s guide to planning a wedding….together.
Let’s say that I read the first few chapters, and realized my fiance would not find any of the "tasks" the book talked about to be any fun.
I also brought him along to pick our our invitations. It was more than overwhelming for him – fonts, colors, envelopes, sizes, etc. Yet, he was a great sport and really humored me! 🙂
So….really, I think most men just want to "show up." (Yet, I have met men that planned the entire thing while the woman sat back and watched, but I think that is rare.)
My advice is to just keep him involved. Make sure when decisions need to be made, you let him know what you like or what you have choosen. Find something that you think he’ll be interested in – i.e. if he’s really into music, have him put together song list for the DJ/band.
Try not to get discouraged about the fact that he may not be into it (I did, and it wasn’t fun) – he loves you and can’t wait to marry you!
Good luck!
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