I want "your" opinions! If you were to go to a wedding planner for help coordinating your wedding, what are the 3 most important things you would expect her to do? Also, what would be the 3 worst things that she could do while coordinating your wedding, and last but not least, what would be unprofessional like of her to do while planning your wedding? (I have a dream to be a wedding planner-and open my own business, and want to be the best that there is! Trying to get input from real people, not just textbooks!)

the 3 most important things
-ask me before making final decisions
-make things happen ( or force them 🙂 )
-stay inside my budget

the 3 worst things
-not have things handled prior to the day of the wedding
-not making sure things move smoothly
-giving me excusses instead of solutions

I am trying to get my fiancee involved with our wedding, but everytime I bring it up he tells me that I am doing to much for the wedding. He keeps telling me that I don’t need to start planning now. That I should wait a few more months to start planning the wedding. But our wedding is less then 10 months away. I am also having to find hotel rooms for our families but he wont give me all the names of the people that are going to be there. So I don’t know how many rooms to book. I need some major help. Please help me anyone!!!

If he’s not interested in planning the wedding, that’s not a big deal. A lot of men who can’t see any point to the planning for a wedding are still enthusiastic about the marriage. My guy honestly didn’t want any part at all in the wedding plans, but fourteen years later, we’re still more than happily married. He just didn’t care whether we had a big wedding, a small one, a formal or informal one. The process didn’t matter whereas the result did.

Unless the unwillingness to take part in wedding planning is part of a larger pattern of ignoring your needs and wishes, it’s not the horrible sign that some people think it is.

That said, you do need to get certain information from him and the sooner the better.

When I was getting married, my brother called me one day a month or so before the wedding and said if my beloved didn’t get in touch with him and tell him what to wear soon, he was going to show up in a kimono and a top hat! I told him that was fine with me, and then informed my beloved he was getting in touch with his groomsmen and telling them what to wear or they would show up in whatever they liked and It would be his fault because I didn’t care that much.

He called them all and worked it out with them the next day.

In this case, I’d give your guy a deadline by which he needs to get the names and addresses of his friends and relatives to you. Let him know that if he doesn’t come through, you’ll get the list from his mother, at which point she gets the choice of who is invited from his side. Then follow through.

If he has a specific deadline and clear consequences, that may well light a bit of a fire under him. Just be prepared to follow through on any consequences you set.

And yes, I’d have kind of enjoyed seeing my brother in a kimono and top hat. I’m funny that way. But he looked very handsome in his formal suit.

I’m getting married next year, and I love my mom and do want her involved in the planning, but lately I feel like it’s starting to become her wedding, not mine 🙁 Every time she asks me what I want and I give her an answer, she always makes "suggestions" of other things I should do. I don’t want to hurt her feelings or alienate her, but I want this to be enjoyable! Am I being unreasonable?

It really depends on who is paying for the wedding. If you are paying for it, then tell her what you want and put your foot down.

If she is paying for it, then you need to very gently explain to her that you understand that she is excited about planning your wedding but that this is your wedding and you are not happy with, X, Y Z (fill in the blanks). I’m sure she is just trying to be helpful and is getting over excited about everything.

Good luck!

I know the bride usually plans the wedding because she’s dreamed of her wedding a certain way since she was 12… but I honestly have never dreamed of any specific kind of wedding. Trying to plan a wedding is giving me a headache. How much is it fair to expect my fiance to plan? Can I give the planning to him and just show up? (He doesn’t seem to want to do the planning either.)

Men will tend to plan the things that are most important to them, but only if you discuss this with them. Maybe ask him to handle the DJ and see how that goes.

If you don’t want a big wedding you don’t have to have one. If neither of you are interested in the planning & you can afford it, hire a wedding coordinator to take on the task.

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My sister is having a wedding and my, mom, and my other sister and I are planning it for her. I wanted to know if anyone has had any experience with wedding planning if they can give us a few tips and pointers.

I planned my own wedding, and I had so much fun! Your sister is lucky to have you guys to help! As far as pointers go:

-start with a realistic budget
-make a list of likes about your sister – favorite colors, places, things to do, flowers, foods, style – think about her closet and her home as hints – write down everything you can think of, so you can keep these things in mind to guide your choices
-book the big stuff asap – ceremony and reception sites, caterer etc.
-involve your sister in the choices, at least a little. ie. set up an appt. with a florist and take your sister along to make choices
-plan ahead, write everything down, and stay as organized as possible and it will be a breeze

I planned my entire wedding in less than 6months, with 90 guests, and had help from my mum and sister a bit, but mostly did it myself. It was so fun! And we had a wonderful wedding, for less than $2500!

I think it must be different for every couple; what has been the part of planning your wedding that you’ve used the most mental energy in figuring out?

Deciding on a budget and figuring out how many flowers and/or decorations to buy. We literally sat down with pen and paper at one point drawing and designing what we thought would look best for the venue. That was a real pain and very exhausting.

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